Powerlessness

Taking Responsibility

No expert can do it all for us. We are responsible for ourselves, not the expert. We may need guidance and instruction to help us along the way, but the buck ultimately stops with us. Our role is to be proactive and not passive. It is our very own internal resources that makes the difference. The skill of any facilitator merely leads us to self discovery.

So in any relationship with an expert, be it a doctor, lawyer, therapist or accountant, the ideal relationship is one of partnership working together for a common goal. The job of any expert is to nurture the inner wisdom of their client or patient. Ultimately the goal is to put themselves out of business as a result of their client becoming self sufficient, where they depend upon themselves for answers.

In any relationship the power and responsibility of the individual must be honored. Any permanent change must come from within. This type of self empowerment is an effective remedy to powerlessness.

Much parenting stress can be relieved by a parenting coach who empowers the parents to be effective in not only managing and nurturing their children, but also empowering their children to be responsible stewards as they grow and develop. We can only be effective as parents when we learn to allow our children the freedom to discover their gifts, and work through their problems.

The Gift of Adversity

Many problems we try to fix, avoid or deny contribute to our powerlessness. This is dealing with the symptom, and closing our eyes to the entire picture.

What is the underlying cause, and what is this problem trying to teach us? In our rush to fix our challenge or difficulty, we often miss an opportunity to acquire important life knowledge and wisdom. The so called problem may be a pathway to the solution to a much larger challenge.

So merely removing the surface symptoms, without discovering and addressing the underlying cause, may only lead to more challenges surfacing down the line. The intention is not to trade one problem for another. Things happen for a reason, and coincidences or synchronicities are a big part of everyone’s life, whether recognized or not.

Powerlessness is a result of us avoiding dealing with these underlying causes once and for all. What we resist tends to pesist, and circle back to us in one form or another. Learn to get the lesson and then release the symptom.

We must teach our children by example, be a sounding board for them when necessary, and oversee their development, while empowering them to think for themselves, and trust their essential nature. Confidence and self-sufficiency can only be attained when we are empowered to make our own decisions. Click here for the Transforming Child Behavior Home Page.

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