The Wisdom Of Not Knowing

Acceptance and Non Resistance

When we are okay with not having an immediate solution, and are willing to just experience what is going on in the moment, we are in a dual state of acceptance and non resistance. Whatever happens is okay, and more will be revealed at the proper time. You will then know when and how to act.

Our tendency is to mess with the flow of things, and get in there and make it work or control the heck out of it. This is motivated by doubt, worry and fear, and not true wisdom surfacing. We just need to get out of our own way.

Parenting

In parent child communication it is imperative that we do not attempt to run the whole show for his or her “own good”. It is not easy to let go at times of conflict, and try to force a solution. But beyond ensuring basic safety and supervision of your child, it’s important to allow your child his or her own voice, and opportunity to communicate needs and possible solutions.

This will only strengthen any relationship because it is based on mutual respect, and a child recognizes and appreciates this. Much adolescent rebellion can be avoided with proper communication, and a reasonable amount of freedom allowed for the child to develop, learn and grow.

Here’s a quote from the philosopher Voltaire: “I do not agree with a word you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.”

So not knowing is nothing to fear or be ashamed about. Instead it is an opportunity to let go and patiently wait for the answer to surface. It is also an opportunity to let your child know that you don’t always have all the answers, but that you will work together in finding a solution.

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